She recognizes that she needs extra support in order to feel comfortable, safe, and respected during her birth experience. Everyone who is a part of her birth team should be on board with fulfilling her needs at this time because she is doing life’s ultimate work. She definitely deserves to have a doula- every woman deserves to. Here’s the thing, Dad…so do you. You absolutely deserve to have the extra support of a professional in the room who is 100% working in the best interest of your family. You deserve to have a person in the room who works to ensure you are just as supported, cared for, and attended to during the birth of your child. You deserve your own inside (wo)man-someone who can get you up to speed real quick when things are moving faster than you can keep up with, or when the medical jargon starts to sound like a foreign language. You also deserve to have an empowered birth experience.Read More
I don’t usually talk about my periods, but it has been 16 years since I’ve had them regularly- and the way she’s cutting up…whew chile!
I recently came to have a new respect for my period. Well, not exactly new, a recognition, a remembering if you will. You see I haven’t had “real” periods since 2004. After the birth of my second son late summer 2003, I decided that an IUD would be the best option for me. I was a nurse at the time, but not yet in OBGYN. I chose the Paragard (copper) IUD mainly because I didn’t want hormones, but many other factors were considered. I won’t take you through the complicated algorithm of decisions I tediously and annoyingly weighed before choosing. Just know it wasn’t a light choice. It was the best decision I made with the information I had at the time.Read More
I went to the premier of UnMASKulinity: An Exploration of Black Men and Vulnerability by Houston based filmmaker Brian Ellison. I learned of this project some months ago and while I was eagerly anticipating it, I was admittedly trepidatious about what we would see. I was eager to see how black men would start and hold this conversation especially in our current social climate.Read More
There is no doubt that Ms. Porter’s children will have the most tight knit of villages to surround them with an outpouring of love and support. Her children will want for nothing. Nothing except the loving embrace of their mother when their day just isn’t right. They will wish to ask her how she thinks they should approach a certain situation. They will wish for the time that they could watch her dance her signature dance, or hear her sing her favorite song, or one last good night kiss before bed. They will want their mother. They will long for the moments with her that only they as her children knew. They will ache for her feminine essence, her natural rhythm, the sound of her heart. They are the only people on this earth who know her from the inside out- her womb being their first home. I grieve for her children.Read More